There are 3 types of Indians, and all these three types show a lot of differences in their attitude and behaviour.
1. Those born and live in India
2. Those born in India, and live outside
3. Those born and live outside India.
Obviously my angst is not against 1 and 3. Number 2 has been tormenting me all the time. Of course,I don’t mean all, but there are some souls that live like this too:-
- An Indian living in India is considered inferior and Indian product is cheap and scrap
- An Indian is never capable of doing anything!
- Will never laugh at another Indian, but flirts/smiles/greets/hugs the localite!
- When encounters an Indian, will give a dirty look
- Sometimes, does not even look at the Indian who is just in front of him.
- Will not smile even if the Indian smiles at him.
- And they stare at every Indian who comes to a shop or restaurant!
- Has the attitude that they’ve already seen enough of Indians in their life time.
- They feel, they are the greatest people on earth to live.
This obnoxious attitude is sometimes all the times so annoying! I mean what's wrong with their attitude?
Am talking about this group that always frowns at me, but smiles at the non-Indian! I can never digest this fact!
My eyes will always search for an Indian and my heart pounds when I hear someone speaking in Indian language, of course I fly when someone speaks Tamil. Of all this years, I’ve volunteered to say hi, smile or initiate a conversation when i see another Indian. Very rarely have I seen someone else coming and talking to me, or smiling at me!
Even people from my neighboring countries recognize us, and make a friendly talk with us, but those that were born in my own land, do not recognize me, or pretend not to see me! I don’t know when this group will change!!
But I'm tired of facing them everyday in my life!!
Came here from Priya's blog..Am getting slowly used to this and its all the more worse in Europe :-(..can so relate to almost every pount made. And the last two paragraphs say it all..its pathetic..As it is, I am not agreat socializer but I still get so excited when I see someone remotely looking like and Indian and of course, agree, when someone talks Tamil its all the more uplifting, and try saying a hi..but sadly, get very few reciprocations..
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Agree...The type 2 ones at some level are very happy when talking abt our poverty, corruption or the lack of civic ameneties.. but the momentu talk abt the new resurgent India with malls and multiplexes they dont like it. Because this fact does not justify their leaving the country...
ReplyDeleteIndians living IN india have problems when Indians from another state come to live in their state--all this within India.
ReplyDeleteBah! Some people are just born this way. nothing can set them right.
Forget Europe, I face exactly the same problem in Japan. Worse they don’t even help you - and you sort of expect help from them coz they are your fellow countrymen ! Its also state vs state. South Indians stick together, so do bengalis, Marathis ,Oriyas have separate associations and people frm other states feel like outsiders. Its sickening ! so much for national integration !
ReplyDeleteHi Vaish...:-)
ReplyDeleteThere are a lot of your people in my country but they are ever so friendly...now I know why some blogging friends of mine left me, am I too friendly with them?
I happen to be a friendly person, we filipinos are...:-)
Thanks for this post, gave me an idea on how to treat Indian friends...;-)
Oh dear...I thot the Indian group abroad are doing so well with get-togethers and in making frndship...it isn't so ????
ReplyDeleteI know...that attitude is here in some parts of the city....its irritating....after one year here, I got to meet some ppl like me.
Hey Vaish,
ReplyDeleteIn a foreign land, it can be so disheartening to see such behaviour. I feel bad for you dear. I know this looking down upon desi things starts right from the time, they know they can study or work abroad. I have a cousin working abroad, who says "you indians"! I have to remind him, he too is an Indian !
tc dear
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@ Sathej - Welcome to my blog!! Yeah..they are worst here in europe! But I don't know about rest of the places. And interestingly, those who do not reciprocate are mostly tamilians!
ReplyDelete@ Alka - Welcome to my blog! ha ha..well said! They never wanted to see or hear any improvements in India. But apparently, they do feel/miss India like we do..but do not express them! Sad..these people suffer from psychological disorder ;)
@ Priya - I know..i saw your post too! Pathetic one! No wonder such state level conflicts happen outside india! It does. Digas form a group, mallus form a group, telugus form a group, north indians form a group,chaudaries and mukerjees form a group, tamilians for a group! None of these group mingle! Uff...tired...true..these people never change! Attitude problems!
ReplyDelete@ Ruchira - very true Ruchi! I was mentioning precisely the same points to priya above! They continue to be wintin their circle, and mostly, they get so selfish!
ReplyDelete@ Amity - I know..this post gives you such a bad feeling about Indians. But hey..don't worry dear..not all of them are like this! I have friends from different Indian states and from different countries too!
@ Uma - I don't know..before coming to Europe for the first time, even my cousins who were living in US told me that its going to be fun. Maybe..things are different in US...no idea! I do have good friends around, have fun get-togethers...but still I meet people like this almost every day!
ReplyDelete@ RS - yes ..they don't change their attitude unless they realize! ha ha..that should be nose-cute reply for your cousin.
ReplyDeleteThis is new for me. To be frank, I have heard this for the 1st time. I have many cousins and friends staying abroad and they have these Indian communities and get togethers once a month or something. My bhabhi actually told me - 'They are like a family away from home'. My friends are the same too... any Indian face and they always make acquaintanceship with that person if not friendship. Where are you?
ReplyDeleteall sorts make the world buddy..no use trying to correct the world..let's be the change v want..hehe how do u like gandhi's idea? hey have fun ya best wishes
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ReplyDeleteand you know when these people come back to india , what they say.. Oh my God these places are so dirty .. United states is so neat.. so much of power cut .. we dont have power cuts at all there ..
i have had enough of them .. most of them my relatives ..
just unacceptable how they react once they go out of the country..
@ Harini - It should be in US...Europe is never like that...by far my experience!!!
ReplyDelete@ Ramesh - Yes..I'm already different from them. Hence I feel so bad/sad/worried when they give such a bad reaction!
@ Arvind - he he...ya...Sometimes when we compare, we do see a lot of advantages with other countries. But with such a huge population and democracy, India is just managing things so well. Just the civic sense need a bit of improvement!
ReplyDeleteagree with you 100%.. I see them to oeveryday .. beleive me when i see that .. I have already written it a few times AN IDIAN will never help another indian. but when it comes to need then they run and go beserk saying how its this and that..
ReplyDeletewe are still under awe of white skin thats all it is the mentality of being slves or inferior to them is still there in those people...
i doubt if this group will change.. but i have a problem with the reverse, there is a 4th kind too .. 4. thos born is india, live abroad, but love india
now i fall in that category, i have problems when i visit india dont u think this about smiling at someone and getting a frown in in INDIA too.. and if a tourist does it they suddenly melt ...
its not just abroad its everywehre ..
Bikram's
@UmaS and @HArini I know what you are saying and maybe the people you know are doing this but its not common.. and this might be with the people they know only..
ReplyDeleteBut it is indeed true an indian here will not help another indian .. thats true tooo
@ Bikram - very true...If i have to count a category on people who love india, it will be another 3 or 4 more!! Like others said, such dirty things happen in india itself - within states!!
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree with you. Though I belong to Group 2 too, I do make an effort to make contact with other Indians, not tom dick and harry, but the ones who seem decent. But most of the time, the response is cold to luke warm and that really pisses me off.
ReplyDeleteyes Pallavi! It's very disheartening to see our fellow people doing it to us :(
ReplyDeleteI agree with you,but they never realize the value of their mother land & when the come to our country,they treat us as aliens..
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