Wedding, marriage, nuptual knots, cupid play, unconditional love and what else???

One of my friend is not interested in the nuptual knots and marriage. After reading his post, I started questioning myself about the pre and post married life. I interviewed S for his thoughts too. And we came up with good advantages, and with no delay, here they are. 


1. First thing that strikes my mind when I think about marriage is COMPANIONSHIP. You always have someone accompanying you to talk to, to listen to you, to laugh with you, to console you, to motivate you and to what not. The camaraderie you share with your partner is just the best thing about marriage.

2. You have someone waiting for you at home at the end of the workday. Isn't it a nice feeling to see this someone at home welcoming you with a big smile everyday.

3. You have someone preparing delicious, mouthwatery dishes (though they are not trained. They try to learn a lot from WWW and manage to serve a edible food).

4. You have a 24/7 maid service- unlimited offer- absolutely for free!! So that simplifies your work in cleaning, cooking, house keeping et al.

5. I am sure travelling alone is no fun. Same with partying and pub-hopping (if you are a party animal). So to lead a happy social life, you need a partner (preferably one of the opposite sex!!).

6. There is someone to pamper you so much-”please have the breakfast”, “here is the milk for you”, “you have to take more fruits”. They are glad to replace the role of your mother.

7. You don’t need to worry about your “self image promotion”. There is this someone who always promotes the goodness of you within their friends and family circle. “My husband did this”, “he is a nice person", "very understanding..bla bla” (even though you are not like this!). You are their "Prince Charming" and "Hero". Where else can you get this cheap means of advertising campaign?

8. There is a readily available pleasure partner 24/7 you-know-for-what.

9. If you are really looking for a challenge in life, you have to get married to manage the CHO – Chief Home Officer, their nagging and cribbing.

10. And in return, of course, you have to meet the expectations of your partner, you have to pet them, cajole them, compliment them, praise them, admire them, surprise them, present them, understand them, and most importantly listen to them.

Here are my answers for his questions:

- The confusion with unconditional love: When there is a word "love", there always exist the word "unconditional". I am equally confused with this complicated concept. May be just ignore it, and give a new phrase for it.

- Just find a person like you by yourself. Or convey your nomadism theories to her.  Not every women are interested in a secured, normal life.  They are equally interested in exploring unknown roads.

- "Freedom is lost after marriage" is the most wrongly interpreted myth.  It may hold true only for women. 

- Quite a natural instinct. You are always free to get attracted towards another person, but with your mind and body in control position.

- Someone is spreading wrong impressions/rumours about marriage. Change is the rule of nature and marriages are no exception. Every single women who is ready for marriage understands it.  When they can change their family, lifestyle and priorities after marriage, they can also manage "changing characteristics of their husband".

Every single person (irrespective of the gender) on earth has such inhibitions about marriage and its woes. Especially in horoscopic, society fearing  country like India. Not that I am a feminist, but women have more inhibitions and fear about mariage than men do.  Give all these thoughts and interests in finding the right person of your choice.

Create a checklist of skillsets you are looking in the partner.

Cooking skills?

Housekeeping?

Is he/she talkative?

Is that an advantage or disadvantage in a given situation?

Career oriented?

Egoistic?

Any extra curricular hobbies? (ofcourse to entertain you)

What is their perspective of life?

Are they responsible?

Impulsive shopper? (if yes, its a great risk for you )

Loves jewellery, gold, diamonds etc (again a risk for you)

Any other specific skills you are looking at?

Once you find your life partner and you start loving them truely, madly, deeply, life becomes more easier than you imagine. Stop building wrong inhibitions, and just try your hands on marriage. Mind you, its worth a try. To sum up - there is a challenge, puzzle, enigma, fun, love, cribbing, emotions, pleasure, and all such related synonyms. 

So why not get married??